Week 5: Dating

This week we discussed dating. Dating is so important when it comes to finding your forever person. Chances are, you aren’t going to marry the first person you like. Going on dates with lots of people allows you to find people with your shared interests, standards, and values. I had a boyfriend in high school and so we went to every school dance together and we never really dated other people. Looking back on high school, I wasted so much time because we ended up not being compatible. I highly recommend high schoolers to date around and not have a serious relationship with a single person. Dating is so much more fun when you’re young. It’s important not to get into a serious relationship if you’re not ready, and don’t have dating experience. I have a friend who has asked me a lot of questions about dating and asked questions like “How did you know he was the one?” “Isn’t it scary before you get married since you are going to be with  that person forever?” “What if you choose the wrong person?” All of these questions are so valid, because while I was dating around I had these fears. While I was dating my husband, everything felt so right and those fears started to go away. I believe that once you meet that person it goes from a scary thing, to just being exciting. I knew I was going to marry my husband and the thought of us being together forever did not scare me, I was ready for it and I could not wait to get married. We did date for a while to make sure we were ready. We dated for a year before getting engaged. My mom always told me to date someone through all the seasons before getting married. While you are in a serious relationship with someone it is so important that you see them in every emotion. How do they act when they are upset with you? How do they handle being sad? All of the emotions. If you do not feel like you fully know the person you are dating, then you are probably not ready to marry them. If the thought of marriage or being together forever is more scary than it is exciting, then you are probably not ready. There is no need to rush marriage. Dating is so much fun so just enjoy it and take things slowly. A lot of people get divorced because they get married before they truly get to know each other. Dating is still important while you’re married. That does not mean dating OTHER people, I realized that sounded wrong. What I mean is that it’s important to continue to go on dates with your spouse regularly. Life gets a little chaotic after marriage, so sometimes we find ourselves doing our own things and not spending much time with our partner. My husband and I make sure to go on a date at least once a week, which I recommend other couples do as well. One issue lately about today’s culture is that people don’t date. How are you supposed to find someone to marry if you never date them? It’s so interesting because just 30 years ago, the dating culture was something entirely different than it is today. Nowadays, lots of people simply don’t want to date. People focus more on their careers, want to be independent, want to save money, and don’t want the stress of a relationship. In today’s society, the majority of people are meeting through social media. There are perks to social media, but I find it to be dangerous. I have friends who will go and meet up with strangers one on one. That person could be anyone in real life. It’s so interesting to me to see how dating culture has changed throughout the years.

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